How To Look Good For Your Spouse
Dec 28, 2023My wife Lindsey and I did our 2024 vision and goal setting this past weekend
If you don't do this with your spouse, you really should
When Lindsey and I had our in person physical therapy business in San Diego, we used to do this every year
However, it was mainly focused on business and what we had to do to reach our business goals
This year was different
Together we talked through our long-term vision for all major areas of our lives:
- Our relationship with God
- Our relationship with each other
- Our relationship with our kids
- Our health (including emotional, mental, and physical health)
- Our relationships with other people
- Our work and our business
- Our finances
That's our actual list and priorities that we went through, but you can do this for any area of your life that's important to you and you want to see positive change in
Basically for each one we talked about what our ideal vision was for this area, WHY it's so important to us (don't ever skip this step), and what daily/weekly/monthly/yearly action steps do we need to take to move closer to that ideal vision
Don't be fooled - this takes some work to really dig deep into what you want - but the clarity and focus that comes from this exercise is so valuable
Most people don't flex this muscle enough to get clear on what they really want
I'm confident one dedicated morning going through this will change the trajectory of our entire year for the better
The Bible says: And the LORD answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. - Habakkuk 2:2
If you don't have a vision for a given area of your life, and if you can't share that vision with those around you that are a part of it, you're going to react to whatever life throws at you and fail to see real long-term traction
In other words you're going to get really frustrated at a lack of progress (at best), and probably butt heads along the way with your spouse or other people you love
Lindsey and I ran into this same frustration for several years until we finally got on the same page on where we wanted to go and why it was important for us to move in that direction
This is true for any area of your life, but especially true in your health and fitness
It can feel very selfish to focus on your health and fitness when there feels like a to do list that's a thousand pages long
It can feel selfish to focus on your health and fitness when you have a wife at home with the kids all day or a husband spending 40, 50, or 60 hours working each week
It can feel selfish when you have a newborn or toddlers that can't function without you and need 24/7 love and care
When you have bills to pay, commitments to attend to, and other people pulling you every which direction
Most people have way too hard of a time saying no to someone else and way too easy of a time saying no to themselves
That's a problem.
And one that's only going to get worse 5 months and 5 years from now
Every compromise you make to yourself now may seem harmless, but if enough compromises stack up you'll be paying a much bigger price down the road.
And you know who suffers most from those consequences?
Sure, you certainly will.
It's not fun to be in pain, overweight, low on energy, and on medications
But who really suffers the most if you get really sick, or if you don't have the energy or health to care for them?
Your spouse.
Your kids.
Your family, friends, and other important relationships in your life.
Focusing on yourself is certainly not selfish
Those around you that you love and care about need you at your best now AND for decades to come
But focusing on yourself doesn't mean being self-absorbed with yourself or neglecting others in the process
You see, there's a false belief around what it really takes to be healthy.
I just wrote about this last week.
Focusing on yourself requires a lot of energy and intentionality, but it doesn't necessarily require a lot of time
What I mean by that, is that you have to be intentional and strategic about how to take care of yourself
What workouts to do, when to do them, how to eat that's best for your body, how to manage stress/sleep/lifestyle, and dozens of other factors
However, that doesn't mean that you need to spend a ton of time doing that
When you focus on the right things, you only need a few hours PER WEEK to completely transform your health for years to come
It's not too good to be true, I help people with this all the time
The best part of this is that it allows you to take care of yourself to be your best AND have more time to actually spend loving, serving, and being around the people that matter most
What's better than that?
Well I'm glad you asked, let me tell you.
This was a plot twist for me as someone who primarily coaches men and helps them burn fat, build muscle, while improving their energy and durability
What's better than you looking, feeling, and performing your very best day in and day out?
You AND your spouse looking, feeling, and performing your very best day in and day out.
And one day your kids and other relationships in your life doing the same, because of the example you've set.
Lindsey and I know how hard it is for couples to prioritize quality time together while also focusing on their own needs.
But what if those worlds could intersect?
What if, instead of having fitness things 'he does' and fitness things 'she does' - you worked together with your spouse towards a common health goal.
One that brought each of you more confidence, energy, intimacy, and strength for years to come
We're about to do something we haven't done - so read very carefully below if this has piqued your interest at all:
I've specialized in helping men reach their highest levels of health and fitness - losing fat, building lean muscle, improving strength and athleticism, and reducing joint pain - all while working out 3 times or less each week
Lindsey and I want to test how well this works for couples.
This program is very well battle tested for men, but we still need more feedback from women.
Lindsey has followed the program following the birth of both our kiddos, with great results, so we know it can work
Our mission has always been to build stronger families - and we really believe that starts with stronger marriages.
Having a stronger marriage applies to way more than being fit or strong physically - but it's still an essential piece to being your best for each other and your kids.
If you're interested in starting 2024 off strong - in your marriage and in your health - here's what you need to know:
We want to take the same results we've gotten for so many men - losing 10 (or more) pounds of fat, building some lean muscle, and improving body composition - and bring it to couples looking to get healthy together
We’re taking on 5 couples and coaching them for free, because that’s all we can really handle time wise. There is no catch, we just want to help these couples out (at no cost) in exchange for some testimonials and feedback on the coaching program
I know it sounds crazy to take something we’ve charged a lot of money for and do it for free - but helping couples transform like this is something that excites us a lot. And we want to find out how well the process I’ve used with men works for couples and how it translates for women too.
We know we can help them burn fat and put on some lean muscle without working out more than 2-3x week. It’s what we’ve used for ourselves and clients over the last 18+ months and we’ve found that it just works
We’ll even guarantee each couple will lose 10 or more pounds of fat in the next 3 months or we’ll keep working with you until you do - because we feel pretty confident in the program
If you're interested, click here to DM me on Instagram with 'FIT FAMILY'
We'll want to set up a call to make sure it's the right fit for you (and for us)
We're going to be picky with who we take on as we want to absolutely guarantee you get the results you're looking for.
If you're on the fence, you better hurry up, because I texted this out to a few people yesterday just to ask how crazy we were for offering this thing for free
They told us:
1) We're definitely crazy
2) They want in
So these spots are already getting filled up before this email hit your inbox
In other words, don't wait on taking us up on this once in a lifetime offer ;)
Hope to see you and your family in there before we kick this off at the new year